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To those who get/have been bullied or have been put down by others…

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I don’t exactly know why people choose to hurt others. Maybe they’re jealous of you, or don’t like you, or just have nothing better to do…But that is no excuse. No matter what the reason is for their actions towards you, it is not okay.

When people try to bring you down, you often question why, you? What have I done to them? And sometimes those questions remain unanswered because you’ve literally done nothing wrong. Don’t ever feel like it’s your fault, like you deserve it, like you’re unworthy, not good enough, or popular enough and that those are the reasons why they’re picking on you. Never believe what others tell you to try and break you because they’re wrong.

I know that sometimes it all gets too much and you just want to break down and show weakness. I know that it gets hard putting on a tough face all the time and holding it in. So don’t hold it in, let it all out- cry if you have to, talk to someone and tell them how you feel. Go out and do anything you enjoy, think of a happy memory- anything that takes you to a happy place. Deal with it in a way you feel safe and comfortable doing it. It’s okay. It does not make you weak, it’s understandable when you have people tearing you down.

Stay strong, ignore the people who are putting you down and don’t let them get to you. You may be able to work it out yourself, and that’s great but remember the person may not be willing to change. If things are getting out of hand and If you’re being bullied, in anyway- SPEAK UP. Please, tell someone. Get help. Don’t be afraid. A teacher, friend, parent, family member- etc. they’re there to help. Remember, you’re not alone.

Also, remember to never attack back. You’re not them. You’re better than that and you’re not a bully. You don’t need to pick on someone in order to feel good. Influence them into good behavior. Let them know that you will not be like them.

Sadly, bullies or just negative people are everywhere- school, work, online, etc. No matter where you’re being put down, remember to stand up for yourself and not let them get to you.

With that said, stay strong, confident and positive. Surround yourself with people who care about you. It may seem like everything is falling apart but I promise that it does get better. Don’t ever give up.

I don’t really care if I don’t know you personally- if you ever need anything/ anyone to talk to / feel alone. I would be more than happy to be a friend and talk to you.

My personal e-mail is: isviramos@yahoo.com or any of my other links are on my profile.

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Peer Pressure

“peer pressure – social pressure by members of one’s peer group to take a certain action, adopt certain values, or otherwise conform in order to be accepted.”

Through out life you feel the peer pressure from just a young age. Kids feel inscurite because of the way from not having any friends, bullied, feeling that they are fat and have to loose weight, have to make themselves more respectable, want to be popular and etc. In which to take order of being accepted into ones group.

This carries on through out life where more people you meet will pressure you to do something that you don’t want to do. Like for example: taking drugs, smoking, getting to waisted from being drunk, steal things, sleep around and many more things.

These days I find that people really can’t accept that people are completely different to them. They don’t have to copy other people’s bad habits, what people wear, what they do and etc. I have a few experiences where I literally had to pull my friends out of some rediclous situations or give them advice to get them out of it.

Yet one of my friends is a year sober because of me getting her help and being there for her when it’s been most dangerous for her. I’ve never been so proud of her on which she has proven herself that she can do it and now doing things that she wants to do. She even shown her friends that she doesn’t need to have a good time drinking or anything.

When I was growing up I always had trouble with myself confidence and stuff but the most important thing for me was being my own invidiual wear what I want to wear and stuff like that because I’m one of those people who just want to get on with things. I get on with everyone but I don’t class them as friends but I got on with them. They respected me and I respected them to the point of they would stand up for me if something was being said or something happened.

Peer Pressure will always find away in finding you when you at least expect it. Even at work funny enough but that’s because people haven’t grown up enough to think differently. They aren’t at school anymore to pick on people.

My advice is just be yourself. Don’t worry what other people say about you. Just hold your head higher than theirs. All they are trying to do is to impress their friends and everyone around them because they think they are better than anyone else. I have my days of course I feel down and not good enough but that’s because I’ve kept it together for so long.

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