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The Wolf of Time

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Hello Readers,

Lately I have been thinking about the concept of time and its meaning. I thought I would share my thoughts and questions with you and maybe ‘open a new door’ as to how time is percevied!!

If time was a character what would it be? Would time be a character deemed as enchanting and one that radiates warmth? Would you personify time as a protector, allowing you to experience beautiful and meaningful moments, aiding your development? Or would you describe time as a cruel, deceitful and overriding character, letting the vibrant lights of life quickly fade with its shadow looming over, reflecting the stillness of your world?- Back to the real life you go, you hear time say. How would the face of your time look? Would it have an endearing smile and eyes which would unlock and grant you your hopes and dreams that you envisioned? Or would time’s face be emotionless, giving you a cold glare with its stone eyes that conveys authority and overruling power, leaving you feeling crushed?

The idea of what time is, what time means, can change throughout one’s life. Time in childhood should bring one moments of joy, beauty and pleasure, a period in which one is given a chance to explore their surroundings, a stage in which that dreams are created. As children we try to hold on to the aspects of life that filled with fun, laughter and love, trying to make activities which exudes such moments last longer, whilst rushing through other more mundane activities. It could be said that time is segmented, renamed and categorised into joyful and pleasurable and gloomy and uninspiring events; the way in which a child expresses these times suggest how favourable or favourable they are. For example the way that a child excitably announce that ‘Its playtime’ depicts that it’s moment of magic and wonder, contrary to when ‘Its homework time’ said in a lifeless tone.

This want to breeze past some moments of time and meander through others is shared by adults, but to a lesser extent. Suddenly you wake up to the fact the there is no second chance; time is slippery, there is a limit to how long you have to hold on to something. It is only as you get older that you truly appreciate time and what time have given you; you might have been taught useful lessons, making you wiser and equipped for the unused time, you might have been given a chance to fulfil a dream or simply given you moments for you to treasure.

The harsh fact that time is running out, or that time is not giving you enough space to full, leaves you panicking, trembling with fear: ‘I want to do this..’ ‘When can I do this now?’ Yet whilst one experience all these thought and feelings, time is still continuing, getting older, fading; the volume of life left in the timer is slowly disappearing. W. H Auden once wrote in a poem ‘You cannot conquer time,’ personifying time as an all-knowing character. However instead of taking on a defeatist view, seeing time as an enemy, create a harmonious connection with time, go forward with ease. Change that monologue in your head from ‘What I could haves’ to ‘What I can dos.’ Make time your friend; is it the one that will see you until the very end- who knows how your character of time could change?!!

I hope you have enjoyed this read and thank you for you so much time!!

Untill next time,

All my love XX

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Authority and Me Before You

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Hello Readers,

Recently, I have watched the incredibly emotional film Me Before You. This film open minds, bends stiff ideas and leaves you with one (or lots of) tears. I believe sharing my thoughts on this particular film is important to express. Like a post I have written before, regarding a film, I will write about Me Before You in relation to a theme that it so elegantly illustrated, and that is authority. Authority, in this film, shows that you can be the master of your own destination, if you have a little believe. This was demonstrated by both characters that I wilI write about. I would like for you to read this with an open mind and to remember nothing is ever ‘black and white.’ Feel free to comment any thoughts you may have on this!!

So much, if not all, of society is controlled restricted and overruled by a superior force, in one way or another. This could be in the form of the government, teachers/people we seek advice from or your parents. Sometimes the sense of authority can make you feel ‘safe’, providing you with assurance that your life choices are accepted agreed and Okayed by a figure that you admire. With reassurance given it motivates you, consciously or subconsciously, to succeed even more in the decisions that you make. This sense of security that comes with authority could, however, be so overbearing that one is left trapped, finding themselves in an unrequested life, unable to grasp hold of the steering wheel of their life, simply be a passenger on route to a unknown destination. But just because you are answered with a dismissive glare and hear the stomach-churning, two letter word ‘NO’ do not mean you cannot find your own way. You can create your own key to open the lock!!

The film, Me Before You, follows the story of Will; a man who once was a young highflying city banker with a zest for life and had a love for travelling was left paralyzed following a motorbike accident. He was back living with his parents in a place he described “That people come to when they get tired of actually living.” Will’s life, post-accident, is a total contrast from the way he found his way in the world; from being completely independent, and in control of his destination to having to ask for assistance with every little movement and having it authorised by another person.

Will’s story merges together with the life of Lou. A young lady with a quirky personality, trying to earn money for her family, but finds herself unhappy in every job she takes. She is living in the world not truly knowing which way her life is headed. Lou then applies and is successful caregiving job to a young man, who just happens to be Will. In her first few encounters with Will, he appears to be shut off and very closed minded to the idea of any sort of companionship with anyone including Lou; the personalities of both theses character could not be more different, with Lou always looking at life with ‘the glass half full.’ Will’s bitterness is highlighted when he says to Lou “What if I said I didn’t want you here?” to which she replies “I’m not employed by you, I’m employed by your mother.” Here we see the lack of authority Will have; the director of his life lies with someone else. However Lou’s raw honesty to Will about the effect his pessimism on others “making….life…miserable” that results in his company “not being particularly enjoyable,” allows him to see another’s perspective and that others have difficult times too. From this moment in the film Will’s cynicism begins to fade, letting a relationship with Lou blossom. They both learn things from each other that would otherwise be an unknown territory if their lives did not pave the path that it did; from Lou’s perspective being magnified, enabling her to find a deeper meaning of life that she craved for, and Will’s ability to look beyond stereotypes and find true beauty in people, stepping out of his comfort zone. Both of these characters could be said to play a ‘teacher’ role to each other, one teaching the other vital life lessons.

This beautiful relationship between Will and Lou that makes them re-define the word life plays a deep importance in both of their lives. However for Will what he desires for is unattainable, Lou learns of Will’s wish to end his life; not wanting to endure anymore of the endless physical or emotional pain he experiences every day, as a result of his disability. In the hope that he will change his mind and see that “life is worth living” Lou establishes and make come alive Will’s dreams, dreams of traveling, going to concerts and being part of activities that he enjoyed as what he termed as the “Old Will.” But even in times of joy, Will is reminded of what he yearns for; after He and Lou drive home from concert Will says “I just want to be a man who’ve been to a concert with a girl in a red dress, just a few minutes more” in reply to Lou’s comment “we better get you in (both still sitting in the car).” He still has to ask to do things in order to experience just a fraction of his desired life, which would perhaps be otherwise left unsaid.

Both characters show that some they can gain or regain power over their life. This is firstly demonstrated by Lou and her ability to persevere with the cynical temperament of Will when they both meet, showing him the light amongst the darkness of his perspective. Throughout the film we see Lou’s sense of self blossoming, being able to stand up for herself and not having something or someone else have power over her. Secondly Will regains his ability to be heard and respected. This is first demonstrated when Lou expresses the effect he has had on her when she tells him “I have become a whole new person because of you,” indicating that he have the abilities to change people lives, even if it is unconsciously. A second way in which he regains authority is by having the final say on the direction of his life. Although Will is tried to be convinced that he could still experience life and fulfil his dreams, he wants to experience those things as the “Old Will”; he is still wishes to die. After six months of when he first shared his wish with his parents, he makes his final journey to Switzerland whereby he ends his life. This was solely Will’s decision and a decision he persisted with. Even though people who authorised the way he lived was in disagreement, Will got back control of his life and directed it in the way that he knew best.

All my love XX

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3 Reasons Why You Can’t Find A Job

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Have you been unemployed? If so, then you probably know how frustrating it is to try to find a job in the United States today. Some areas of the United States have been devastated so badly by the economic downturn. Unless you have been unemployed before, it’s hard to explain the extreme frustration that one feels when you are unable to pay the rent and feed your family. This epidemic has prompted me to become an entrepreneur and become my own boss. However, there is a huge misconception that being unemployed is the fault of those who are unemployed. The truth is that our economy is dying and it is not producing nearly enough jobs anymore.Here are some reasons why it’s hard to find a job.

1. Increased competition:
There have been a record number of college applications across the nation, resulting in more college graduates, and thus, more competition for the limited number of jobs available on the market. I will safely assume that every person reading this knows at least one person in their social circle who has graduated college and is still having difficulty getting a job

2. Lack of networking:
Many people get jobs through referrals. Statistics show the majority of people get their jobs this way. The reason why word of mouth is so effective is because it cuts through all the worry of whether or not this person can do the job. If somebody has been working for a company for some time, then that employee knows what it takes to succeed, and if that employee knows somebody who can do it, it’s an easy fit. The employer will trust the employee referring the new candidate and the new candidate will most likely get the job.

3. Technology Replaces Workers:
This has become a major problems in recent years with more technology there is a lesser need to for employers to hire available workers. This results in a huge number of displaced workers

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Enjoyment and Connections

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Hello Readers,

The word enjoyment…what does it mean to you? What connotations does enjoyment have? Do you have an immediate image in your mind when you hear that word? Perhaps of a place or of a specific person? What feelings to you experience when you think of the word enjoyment?

Enjoyment, the sense of enjoyment is unique to every individual; the passion, the enchanting nature, the singular or multiple elements of entities that drives one to ever find themselves lost in the joyful state. These are precious moments that should be cherished as it gives one a chance to get in touch with their ‘true self’ being reminded of freeing, calming, fun and joyful nature inside them; they are able to go back to the place where they are just ‘let be’. Maybe out of these times whereby they are able to indulge in thrilling experiences, they can recognise qualities in themselves that they have perhaps overlooked or were inattentive to before.

An exciting aspect of enjoyment is that the entity you take pleasure in could be shared by others, other people you may not know; you and that mystery person(s) already have a connection, you just have to go in search of those who are on the other end of the link.

Place yourself in a music concert- the first cord on guitar is strummed, the first note on the piano is played and the first beat on the drum is echoed, it is THE song everyone knows. Now for my favourite bit- looking around and seeing, feeling the vibrations of excitement amongst hundreds of individuals, radiating what you are feeling-all singing the same words and waving their hands in unison. The atmosphere is electric with joy all for one reason and if a person a members of the crowd ‘Why do you like this band?,’ you would find that similar responses would be given- you might even find two people give the exact same answer.

My example of a concert is on a big scale, but even if you were to consider a form of enjoyment that was more individualised to you, you are guaranteed that there is at least another person in the world with similar appreciations as you. This comes to remind you and I that no one is ever completely alone, if you only looked around.

So, go and find what it is you enjoy, what it is that you have deep happiness in doing and..do it!! Even if there is a wall of fear jump over to the other side and find out the answer to ‘what if?’. Most importantly enjoy!!

Until next time,

All my love XX

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To those who get/have been bullied or have been put down by others…

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I don’t exactly know why people choose to hurt others. Maybe they’re jealous of you, or don’t like you, or just have nothing better to do…But that is no excuse. No matter what the reason is for their actions towards you, it is not okay.

When people try to bring you down, you often question why, you? What have I done to them? And sometimes those questions remain unanswered because you’ve literally done nothing wrong. Don’t ever feel like it’s your fault, like you deserve it, like you’re unworthy, not good enough, or popular enough and that those are the reasons why they’re picking on you. Never believe what others tell you to try and break you because they’re wrong.

I know that sometimes it all gets too much and you just want to break down and show weakness. I know that it gets hard putting on a tough face all the time and holding it in. So don’t hold it in, let it all out- cry if you have to, talk to someone and tell them how you feel. Go out and do anything you enjoy, think of a happy memory- anything that takes you to a happy place. Deal with it in a way you feel safe and comfortable doing it. It’s okay. It does not make you weak, it’s understandable when you have people tearing you down.

Stay strong, ignore the people who are putting you down and don’t let them get to you. You may be able to work it out yourself, and that’s great but remember the person may not be willing to change. If things are getting out of hand and If you’re being bullied, in anyway- SPEAK UP. Please, tell someone. Get help. Don’t be afraid. A teacher, friend, parent, family member- etc. they’re there to help. Remember, you’re not alone.

Also, remember to never attack back. You’re not them. You’re better than that and you’re not a bully. You don’t need to pick on someone in order to feel good. Influence them into good behavior. Let them know that you will not be like them.

Sadly, bullies or just negative people are everywhere- school, work, online, etc. No matter where you’re being put down, remember to stand up for yourself and not let them get to you.

With that said, stay strong, confident and positive. Surround yourself with people who care about you. It may seem like everything is falling apart but I promise that it does get better. Don’t ever give up.

I don’t really care if I don’t know you personally- if you ever need anything/ anyone to talk to / feel alone. I would be more than happy to be a friend and talk to you.

My personal e-mail is: isviramos@yahoo.com or any of my other links are on my profile.
KILL EM WITH KINDNESS

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FINDING PASSION IN LIFE

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How many people have told you, “Follow your passion,” “Find your passion,” “Pursue your passion” or “Find a job that you would do for free”. Yet in many cases “passion” is often a concept that is difficult to explain, hard to find and impossible to measure. It’s something that’s unique to each of us, with no one scale to determine it or map to guide us to it. This can be problematic in a society that is rapidly changing by the minute, a “good education” no longer guarantees work and a job no longer provides security or stability. We may be losing the structure and simplicity of the past, but we are exchanging it for the freedom to create our own future. As exciting or maybe overwhelming as this may be we’re not all necessarily ready for this responsibility. As much as we embrace freedom, we also seek the comfort of guidance and leadership. In order to discover our passion and unlock that freedom, we need some direction and a better understanding of what we are looking for. But, many of us get sidetracked by our own self-doubt that we dwell upon in our minds.

It is difficult to find our passion in a meaningful way when we are not encouraged to focus on our inner strengths. Think about our school experience. Did we focus on our strengths or on our weaknesses? We focus on our weaknesses. If we have low grades in math, we spend more time on math. If we fail a test, we go for extra help in that subject. We have to pass every subject so we spend time on those that are the most difficult, the most uncomfortable, just to survive. No wonder we have lost touch with our true passions and talents by the time we graduate. We have focused on our weaknesses for so long. It takes quite a bit of time to sort out your true passions or your natural talents. In a world where people are constantly on the go, on their phones or on social media. Taking the time out to let you feel, dream, and imagine is very difficult, much less counter-culture. This time can help you in the pursuit of finding yourself and your passion.

The first step to finding your passion is to truly understand what “passion” is. It can be your calling in life may be something you are born knowing, but it may also be something you discover over time. Simply put it is something that will stem from your beliefs, be enhanced by your skills and sustained by the value that you are able to provide. The next time you feel energized and strong and like the best version of yourself pay attention to what you’re doing in that moment. Start to think what are you really passionate about that you know deep down you are destined to do. Dare to dream, dare to imagine the possibilities, and dare to actually search for what you love. Comment below I would love to hear what you all are passionate about and if you like this post, please share!

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